Active & Deep Listening - a key to create deeper love

Key to Being Loved

"Have you ever been described as a good listener?

Tarek Copyright (c) 2010 www.TarekCoaching.com

http://www.tarekcoaching.com/blog/a-crucial-key-to-being-loved-by-millions/

"Active listening is what you do when you’re life coaching someone. It is when you’re intentionally focused on the person talking to you. You’re aiming to genuinely understand the message they’re trying to get across. You ask questions to fill in the gaps they might have left. Unlike conversational listening, you don’t share your stories or experiences just yet. In other words, you’re less in your head and more focused on building a complete picture of what the other person is telling you.

Deep listening is the fourth and most powerful type. It is almost hypnotic and it’s more powerful than active listening especially if you’re life coaching someone. It’s as if you’re in a meditative state where your mind is completely silent and you’re fully focused on what the other person in front of you is telling you. By nature, this state is very elusive because the moment you’re thinking “OMG I’m deep listening” you lost it!

You need not be a life coach or life coaching someone however to deep listen. You can do this if you’re a teacher, a parent, a spouse, a friend or just a stranger. Of course it’s not possible, desirable nor recommended to deep listen for long periods of time. That’s especially true if you’re life coaching someone as that will require a fair bit of active listening too.

 But in these moments when you’re deep listening, you’ll feel as if you’re experiencing being the other person. The other person will feel that no one has ever before related to them or understood them like you do… and rightfully so! It feels as if the entire world is melting down around you and that you’re the only two people left there. You forget about the big cheering audience, the rolling cameras, the bright studio lights or the fact that you’re live on TV. It’s just you and the other person in front of you and there’s this incredible and powerful connection between you that’s unique only to you two.

That’s what “listening with your heart and soul” is all about. ..."